Gyro, here is the bottom line from that video

Posted on: January 10, 2018 at 12:05:49 CT

do with it what you wish

"is we haven't really learned to understand our own emotional life.
So we go through our life
believing how we're feeling on a moment by moment basis
is down to somebody else.
We actually say this:
"You annoyed me," "You made me unhappy,"
"You did it to me," and we point the finger at other people,
believing other people are the cause of our own unhappiness.
So newsflash:
nobody's doing it to you.
Nobody's making you feel these things.
I mean, what do you think that happens
when you get frustrated with somebody else?
Did they come up to you and inject you with frustration,
with the chemicals of frustration?
Did they create the electrical signals of frustration,
the pressure waves, the sound waves?
No. You did that.
You created that inside yourself in response to their poor behavior.
So, if you can accept that you're doing it -
it's not them, it's you -
that simple truth takes you from what we call the victim position,
and it crosses the threshold to ownership.
That's the most important transition you'll ever make in your life."